Starter
€49 per month
We find the right people. You take it from there.
- 10 new introductions per month
- Up to 3 interests
- Interest-based matching
- Personalized opener for every match
Early access · New York first
Pick what a date is worth to you.
Choose the plan you'd actually want and we'll hold it. You're charged the day your city goes live, not today.
Early access
Interests only
Copilot
€149 per month
We find them and keep the conversation moving.
Everything in Starter, plus:
- 50 new introductions per month
- Unlimited interests
- Conversations and follow-ups handled for you
- Help moving from chat to plans
- Your tone, full visibility, unlimited rewrites
Concierge
€249 per month
Everything handled — including your profile.
Everything in Copilot, plus:
- 100 new introductions per month
- Photo selection & recommendations
- Bio and profile optimization
- Personalized content recommendations
- Monthly profile review
“Our pick” is our opinion, not a popularity stat. We have no users yet, so we're not going to print a number we don't have. Copilot is the one we'd choose ourselves, and that's the whole claim.
Early access · the first cohort
Right now, a person sets this up with you.
We're onboarding the first New York users by hand. Whichever plan you pick, someone actually builds your first search with you: a call, twenty minutes, working out which communities matter for your thing and which ones are noise. Then we watch the first batch of openers with you and fix what reads wrong.
That isn't a perk we invented for this page. It's simply what the first few dozen customers of any product like this look like, and it stops the moment it stops scaling. Being early costs you rough edges and buys you our full attention.
The honest version
- If Instdate isn't live in your city within 90 days, you pay nothing and we email you to say so.
- If it's live and it's not for you, one email gets your money back. No form, no retention call.
- Cancel any time, in one click, from inside the product. You keep access to the end of the month you paid for.
- We don't have users yet. You'd be early, and early means rough edges.
Line by line
Everything, in one table.
Including the rows that are the same on every plan, because those are the ones that make this a different product.
| Feature | Starter€49/month | Copilot€149/month | Concierge€249/month |
|---|---|---|---|
| New introductions per month | 10 | 50 | 100 |
| Interests | Up to 3 | Unlimited | Unlimited |
| Interest-based matching | Included | Included | Included |
| Personalized opener for every match | Included | Included | Included |
| Conversations and follow-ups handled for you | Not included | Included | Included |
| Help moving from chat to plans | Not included | Included | Included |
| Your tone, full visibility, unlimited rewrites | Not included | Included | Included |
| Photo selection & recommendations | Not included | Not included | Included |
| Bio and profile optimization | Not included | Not included | Included |
| Personalized content recommendations | Not included | Not included | Included |
| Monthly profile review | Not included | Not included | Included |
Interest-based matching and the opener are on every plan, including the cheapest one. They're not the upsell. They're the product.
The one outside number on this site
26%
of US singles already use AI somewhere in their dating life. Among Gen Z it's 49%.
Source: Match Group / Kinsey Institute, Singles in America 2025 (n=5,001).
Straight answers
Billing, cancelling, and what your money actually does.
On Copilot, what does “handled for you” actually cover?
The opener, the replies, the follow-ups, and the part where a chat turns into a place and a time. You see all of it as it happens, you can rewrite any line in your own tone, and you can take it back or switch it off at any point.
Worth knowing before you buy: any tool that works alongside a social platform carries some risk to the account it runs on. We keep volume deliberately low for that reason, and it is the main thing we will talk through when we onboard you.
What actually happens when I press one of these buttons?
Stripe checkout opens in test mode. No card is charged, and no real card can be: test mode declines them by design.
We're doing it this way on purpose. A fake “join the waitlist” button teaches us nothing, and taking real money for software that isn't live in your city yet would be taking your money for nothing. Getting as far as the checkout screen tells us you'd actually pay this, which is the single thing we need to know before we build the rest.
When would I actually be charged, once it's live?
The day Instdate opens in your city. Not the day you sign up, not thirty days later. New York is first.
If we can't ship in your city within 90 days, you pay nothing and we email you to say so. That email gets sent whether you chase us or not.
Can I cancel?
Any time, in one click, from inside the product. No email, no form, no “let me put you through to retention”, no offer of three months half price on your way out.
You keep access until the end of the month you already paid for, then it stops charging. Nothing renews quietly and nothing is billed after you've cancelled.
What if I pay and it's rubbish?
One email gets your money back. No form, no retention call, no “can we ask why” survey you have to finish first.
And to be blunt: we don't have users yet. You'd be early. Early means missing cities, interests we haven't mapped, and openers that occasionally read like a robot having a go. If that sounds like a bad deal, wait for version two. We'll still be here.
What does Concierge actually add for €100 more?
A person works on your side of it. Copilot handles the conversations. Concierge also fixes the reason half of them stall: your own profile.
Someone goes through your photos and tells you which two to lead with and which four to cut. They rewrite your bio, reorder the grid, and tell you what to post so that someone who lands on you sees a person with a life rather than a blank. Then they do it again each month as things change.
It is the least fun advice to hear and the fastest thing to fix. If you already know your profile is good, take Copilot and keep the €100.
Is this price going to go up?
Probably. These are early-access prices for the first New York cohort and they're the lowest they will ever be.
If you're in that cohort, your price is the price you signed up at for as long as you stay subscribed. If it changes for new people, we'll say so plainly rather than quietly grandfathering nobody.
Which one should I pick?
Start on Starter. It's the whole loop, and most people never need more. Move to Copilot when you want help with the reply after the first message lands. Concierge is for people who'd rather pay a person than learn a tool, and that's a perfectly reasonable way to live.
We put the arithmetic on this page because we'd rather you picked right than picked expensive. A customer who's overpaying cancels in month two, and that helps nobody.
Still have questions? hello@instdate.com
New York first
Pick one. We'll hold it.
You're charged when your city goes live, not today. And right now nothing is charged at all, because we're in Stripe test mode while we find out whether this is worth building.